A Call for Change
Since beginning my work supporting fathers in 2020, I’ve observed significant gaps in services that should address men’s well-being but often fall short. The lack of support for men, especially those from working-class backgrounds, has been both frustrating and deeply hurtful to witness. Men, in many areas of life, are often treated as dispensable, whether in their personal relationships, workplaces, or society at large. This perception can be especially damaging for men who may already feel marginalized, and it highlights a broader societal indifference toward men’s well-being.
It’s been a challenging journey advocating for children to have meaningful relationships with both parents. My commitment to supporting fathers in staying actively involved in their children’s lives has often left me feeling vulnerable to criticism, pushback, and even discrimination. Despite these challenges, I’m steadfast, grounded in a mission that’s driven by compassion and backed by clear data: children thrive when they have access to both parents.
Research consistently highlights the profound effects of fatherlessness—not only on individual children but on society as a whole. The cycles are evident: many fathers who struggle to be present had absent fathers themselves, and the same holds true for many mothers. These cycles impact our communities deeply, and the effects ripple out in ways that are often overlooked.
I recognize that in advocating for fathers, particularly as a man, this work can feel lonely. Yet, I know in my heart that it’s the right path. Every step forward has the potential to break a cycle, to create stronger, more resilient families, and to uplift communities as a whole. So, I remain committed, even when the road is hard, knowing that this work can change lives, give children a stronger sense of identity and stability, and bring a healthier future into reach for all of us.
Male Suicide: A Silent Epidemic by James Cunningham
Male suicide has emerged as one of the most critical yet under-discussed public health crises globally. In numerous countries, suicide ranks as the biggest killer of men under 50. Despite its devastating impact, male suicide often receives insufficient attention, and systemic barriers prevent men from accessing the support they need. The effects of this neglect not only impact adult men but also extend to young boys, shaping their perceptions of themselves and the world around them.
The statistics surrounding male suicide are alarming. Globally, men account for around three to four times more suicides than women. In high-income countries, this gender disparity is especially pronounced, with men representing nearly 80% of all suicide deaths despite comprising roughly half the population
CDC
These figures suggest that many men are struggling with issues such as mental health disorders, social isolation, and economic stressors, but are unable or unwilling to seek help.
Support & Solutions
Supporting men’s mental health requires a comprehensive, inclusive approach that addresses societal, cultural, and policy-related challenges. Men’s mental health has historically been overshadowed by stigmas, a lack of targeted policies, and systemic biases that limit men’s rights, family involvement, and support during crises. To create a healthier, more balanced society, we need to address these barriers head-on. Below are solutions, grounded in evidence, that can help foster better mental health outcomes for men while creating a more inclusive and supportive environment for both genders.
Combat the Stigma Around Men’s Mental Health
Normalizing emotional expression: Cultural norms around masculinity often discourage men from showing vulnerability, seeking help, or discussing their emotions. Campaigns and public health initiatives should aim to normalize emotional expression in men, reinforcing that it is not only okay but necessary to ask for help. Encouraging men to share their experiences can reduce feelings of isolation and stigma.
Engage influencers and role models: Using male role models, celebrities, and sports figures who openly discuss their mental health struggles can break down the stigma. Studies show that peer support and seeing relatable figures open up about their struggles can encourage men to seek help sooner.
Inclusive Policies for Men’s Mental Health
Mental health policies need to be more inclusive, focusing on men’s specific challenges such as depression, social isolation, and suicide prevention. Countries like Australia and the UK have developed men’s mental health strategies, which include tailored interventions for men and boys that focus on early intervention, community support, and addressing male-specific risk factors.
Workplace mental health initiatives should provide male-friendly counselling services and mental health programs that emphasize confidentiality and practical support, helping men balance job pressures with mental well-being.
Addressing Men’s Rights and Family Life
Equal parenting: If both parents are capable, fathers should have equal time with their children post-divorce or separation. Evidence suggests that fathers who are actively involved in their children’s lives tend to have better mental health and reduced rates of depression. Furthermore, children benefit from strong father-child relationships, showing better emotional and psychological outcomes.
Shared custody policies that prioritize joint parenting not only reduce conflicts between separated parents but also lower stress and feelings of marginalization in fathers. Research shows that men who are involved in their children’s lives are less likely to engage in self-destructive behaviours, including violence.
Non-Gender Specific Policies in Domestic Abuse Cases
Domestic abuse policies must be non-gender specific to account for the fact that men can also be victims of abuse. According to studies, 1 in 3 victims of domestic violence are men, but they are often less likely to seek help due to stigma and societal perceptions. Creating a supportive environment where men can safely report abuse will lead to better mental health outcomes for male victims.
Domestic abuse shelters and support programs should be available and tailored for men, offering counselling and legal support, and recognizing that the impact of abuse on men can be just as profound as it is on women.
Support for Boys and Education Systems
Boys’ mental health in schools should be given the same attention as girls. Schools should implement mental health programs that focus on emotional intelligence, coping mechanisms, and resilience for both boys and girls. The gender gap in education—where boys are falling behind in academic performance in many countries—also impacts their mental health and long-term prospects. Encouraging boys to excel in school and providing mentorship programs can build self-esteem and reduce anxiety and depression.
Healthy relationship education should be taught to both genders, focusing on respect, empathy, and communication. Programs that teach boys and girls about emotional intelligence and conflict resolution can help develop healthy adult relationships, reducing the risk of future mental health issues.
Healthy Relationships and Mental Health for Both Genders
Healthy relationship advice is not only important for men but for both genders. Men and women need to be supported in learning how to foster positive, respectful relationships. By emphasizing mutual respect and empathy in relationships, mental health outcomes improve for both parties, which can reduce instances of domestic conflict, isolation, and emotional distress.
Relationship counselling and support should be readily available and encouraged for all couples, offering tools to navigate conflicts without escalation, which can have long-term benefits on mental health.
Men’s Rights in Family and Legal Systems
Men’s experiences in the family court system are often fraught with bias, where they are more likely to be seen as secondary caregivers. This has a direct impact on men’s mental health, as the lack of involvement in their children’s lives can lead to depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Family law reform that ensures fair treatment and prioritizes the best interests of the child—through equal time and shared parenting—can have positive mental health benefits for fathers.
Legal systems must recognize that men are also victims of unfair treatment in custody disputes and domestic abuse cases. Implementing training for legal professionals on gender biases can ensure fairer outcomes for men and women alike.
Lowering Conflict and Reducing Male Violence
Men are statistically more likely to engage in violence when they feel powerless or disconnected from society. Ensuring that men have strong family ties, especially with their children, provides them with a sense of purpose and belonging. Studies have shown that men who are involved in positive family dynamics and have strong personal connections are significantly less likely to engage in violent or self-destructive behaviours.
Mentorship and community-building for men can also help reduce feelings of isolation and frustration, leading to better conflict resolution skills and healthier emotional expression.
Encouraging Men to Have Something to Live For
A key factor in reducing male suicide and violent behaviours is ensuring men feel they have something to live for—whether it’s their family, career, or personal growth. Men with strong support networks, fulfilling careers, and active roles in their families are less likely to experience severe mental health issues.
Solutions: Men Need to Recognize Their Value
Addressing these issues starts with recognizing the inherent value of men. Society needs to shift away from seeing men as disposable or defined solely by their productivity. Men, like everyone else, deserve compassion, support, and care. Public services, media, and education need to acknowledge and validate men’s struggles without diminishing them or pitting them against the struggles of others.
Men themselves also need to be empowered to understand that seeking help is not a sign of weakness. Men’s mental health campaigns must do more to break the stigma that discourages men from talking about their mental health. Programs that specifically target working-class men, focusing on mental health in the workplace and family support services, could be a crucial first step.
Additionally, there needs to be greater legal protection for men, particularly in domestic abuse cases and family law, ensuring that their rights and voices are heard and respected. More inclusive policies that prioritize equal parenting and recognize men as capable caregivers will not only improve the mental health of fathers but also benefit their children, reducing conflict and creating more harmonious family environments.
The reality for many men is that they are struggling in silence, often believing their pain does not matter, or that they are somehow responsible for their suffering even when they are not. This is not only unfair but deeply damaging to the fabric of society. Addressing these issues requires a cultural shift—one that sees men as valuable, deserving of care, and capable of emotional depth.
By creating a society that listens to and supports men, especially working-class men, we can foster healthier families, workplaces, and communities. Men are not disposable, and it’s time society recognizes that their well-being is essential to the well-being of everyone.
James Cunningham
October 19th 2024
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